asking why

April 26, 2012 § 2 Comments

Recently, two friends and former coworkers of mine who have been fighting cancer found out their cancer had resurfaced. Today, I found out that one of them had passed away after a very courageous battle that started in 2009. She was the worship service producer at Mariners Church, and incredibly creative, funny, and down-to-earth, not to mention adored by her husband and 11-year-old son. After a year-long fight, she thought she had finally beat it, only to discover it had returned late last year. It was a tough battle, and one that caused many people to question why God wasn’t intervening in a miraculous way. I am still questioning why it had to happen, why she had to die so young and in so much pain, leaving behind her husband and son. Please pray for Kym’s husband, son, and family.

The other friend of mine has been struggling with an incurable cancer for ten years. He was one of the worship leaders at Mariners Church for a while and an incredibly gifted song writer. Recently, he wrote a blog post about the discovery of three tumors. It was difficult for me to read, thinking of him, his family, and the road ahead. It is really well written, and you can read it here, if you are interested. Please pray for a miracle for Tim.

Both of these situations came to my attention within the last week. It breaks my heart to think of the pain these families are going through, and amazes me to see their faith even in situations where abandoning faith would be justified. It is also an incredible reminder to me of how fortunate I am to have Steve in my life, as well as my amazing friends and family, and to be thankful for their presence and love. Too often, I take all of them for granted.


§ 2 Responses to asking why

  • wddjr says:

    Here is a beautiful obituary touching on unanswered prayer:
    Our friend and long-time YWAMer Cynthia Bloomer is with the Lord. She was diagnosed with a rare, fatal disease a few weeks ago. Her husband, Dr. Tom Bloomer, heads the University of the Nations. Even if you didn’t know Cynthia, you’ll be blessed by what Tom wrote just after her death….

    After a sunny and cloudy, windy and cold, achingly beautiful April day, Cynthia breathed her last and danced into the presence of the Lord. The hospice nurse called me after 7 PM and said, ‘Drive carefully but come right away’. When we arrived three good friends were sitting with her; they left as we surrounded her bed. I was able to talk her through her last 30 minutes on this earth, reassuring her yet again that we would be OK, that she could leave behind all her back pain and allergies and arthritis, and that her dear Dad Howard was waiting for her . . . he who studied light* all his life would have even more to tell her about it now, having lived in absolute Light since his passing in 2003.

    Weeks ago I was crying out “It wasn’t supposed to turn out like this!” We had first fallen in love exactly 40 years ago, in the time of the lilacs blooming in Illinois in 1972. As soon as that cry rang from my heart, I heard the echo of the first time it had sounded: when God Himself cried it out as Adam and Eve left the Garden, and the blight of death and destruction started to spread over and through all of Creation.

    No, it wasn’t supposed to turn out like this: evil and selfishness and nasty diseases that spring out of nowhere and destroy precious people were NOT part of His plan. But we know that our Redeemer lives, and that His love triumphs over death.

    Since I wrote yesterday about His love, I realized that although literally thousands of people were praying for Cynthia to be healed and to stay here, the Lord Himself was jealous for her to be in His presence. I have often taught, too glibly, that God’s love is infinite; but what that means right here and now, for me, is that His love for Cynthia outweighs all of our prayers . . . His love is dense beyond our imagination.

    Many of you have also heard me teach this principle: “When we pray, we are trusting God; when He doesn’t answer, He is trusting us.” God Himself has entrusted us with unanswered prayers for Cynthia. He is trusting us to go on trusting Him, and to follow Him not because of what He does for us or what we would want Him to do; but to follow because He is God, and we are not.

    By His grace, we are trusting Him, and at peace in His sovereign decision to not answer our prayers. We do not understand; but as we have trusted, we have peace. Phil prayed a beautiful prayer after Cynthia’s passing; Amy and Alice are in peace too.
    Dear ones, the Lord Himself has entrusted us with unanswered prayers, and that is an immense privilege. Cynthia trusted Him until the end, and on through it. And now she no longer sees through a glass darkly, but face to face.

    The Lord gives, and the Lord takes away; blessed be the name of the Lord.
    Tom, for Phil, Amy

    * Cynthia was the daughter of the late Dr. Howard Malmstadt, an eminent scientist and co-founder of the University of the Nations

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